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Divorces Everywhere

« H E The Past :: Donna :: email
posted Wednesday, 2 April 2008

“I think about all the divorces—scary.”  That’s what I wrote in my diary on December 27, 1997.  Yes, it made me stop and think.  We had heard that a couple we had known in Germany had divorced and a single guy who later married was separated from his wife.  Friends (with two little boys) of ours that we knew from church were getting a divorce.

I also wrote that I hoped “Bill and I don’t have to be away from each other for too long.”  I know that people being in the Army isn’t the main reason why couples divorce, but it sure didn’t help (and still doesn’t).  During the time that we were at Fort Hood, the Army was sending units to Germany for six months at a time.  It was hard on families, and some didn’t survive the separation.  With Bill and me being married only seven years and knowing about all the divorces, it frightened me a bit.

During his time in the Army, Bill could have been assigned to recruiting duty, but wasn’t.  I was always thankful for that.  Recruiters work long hours.  The family usually doesn’t live near a military installation and doesn’t have the support of other military families.  The divorce rate for couples with a husband on recruiting duty was 50 percent.  But with Bill being in retention, he wasn’t gone from home very much or very long.  Whew!

I thank God that our marriage was survived for almost 38 years.  I think it has more than survived.  It has flourished.  I thank God for such a wonderful husband.

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Let your fountain be blessed,
And rejoice with the wife of your youth.
As a loving deer and a graceful doe,
Let her breasts satisfy you at all times;
And always be enraptured with her love.
Proverbs 5:18-19


comments (1)


1. call me grandma left...
Saturday, 5 April 2008 4:54 am

Sometimes I shake my head when I hear or read about all the divorces. I am watching the series about John Adams on HBO. He was away from his family for years and yet his marriage stayed in tact. I am grateful for my wonderful husband. He is a saint for living with me for 42 years. I can be a handful...sometimes. I have mellowed with age though. Is it your anniversary? If so or if not I still congratulate you on your long, good marriage.